this situation with my wife is the hardest thing I've ever had to do. I can't detach all the way because we have to talk about our son. I need advice puppy, sg, whomever.....should I have a friend drop a hint to her to stop texting nonsense stuff to me ? It's always stuff she could tell me in person later in the day. It's hard when I love her and want her back and she doesn't want me (that I know of). I don't want to talk to her. It's easier this way. Why can't she take my hints
Buster,
First of all, it's hard for me to respond and help you when you post so many different, short, posts. It would help if you could sum up two or three specific questions into one post for us to help answer.
I see too much game-playing, passive-agressive stuff going on here in your interactions with your wife. Having a friend tell her something is sooo "junior high," kwim? If you have something to say to her, SAY it -- don't drop hints. "Wife, I think it would be best right now for us to confine our communication to parenting issues." or "I don't mean to be rude in not responding to your texts, but there's really nothing I want to discuss with you right now. If it's important, I'll certainly try to get back to you as promptly as I can, but I've been really busy lately with (GAL stuff here)."
Make sense?
Just NOT RESPONDING is rude, and "rude" is not what you're going for. "Busy" . . . "distant" . . . "detached" . . . is what you're going for.
