Hi Tal, I have seen you around too. Nice to "meet" you
Sara, I kind of dismissed the co-dependent thing too. I guess I thought it always had to do with drugs, alcohol, or abuse. After reading up on it, I don't think that is the case. The more I read about it the more I believe that is what we had.
Michelle, I will have to find the place I took the quiz again. I'll let you know.
Donna, I don't know that we have any groups around here since it is such a small town but I will definitely look into the author you mentioned. Xh is an adult child of an alcoholic. I am not sure where my "need to please others" comes in, but I do know that I always tried extra hard to please my parents due to the way my brother was. He gave them a very hard time growing up (and even now) and I wanted to put the least amount of stress as possible on them. I became very independent and never did anything to upset them and went out of my way to make things easier on them. Maybe that is where it stems from.
Thanks GF, life actually does feel good right now. I have to remind myself that it is ok to be happy.
Last night I went to dinner. My lawyer was there and he told me the D was final as of yesterday and I would be receiving everything in the mail in a few days. The guy that I have a date with was there and he insisted on buying my dinner and drinks....so, what's a girl to do?
My mom talked to me last night and asked me to stay at her house for a while instead of getting an apartment. She is right, we don't fight and neither one of us are there very much. Sometimes I just need my own space. She wants me to stay so I can save more money. I am going to think about it.
