The other day when (yet again) my STBX was attempting once more to have sex w/ me (we r going to pre trial this Monday)I told him I was not goign to let him cake eat and he kept saying " I'm not ...I'm not", then what r u doing? he said....as he thought his words carefully..."Its not cake , its pie"
Anyhoo , the more I have let him go and moved on, the more he seems to want it