except that he doesn't see his kids and they are suffering for it.
That is the biggest tragedy of all. To some extent my H has started to reconnect with our kids (esp S15) and I made the mistake at first of trying to muscle in on that act (although it wasn't done delibarately at the time). Now I'm trying to just let him be with them and they him and see what happens. It is hard b/c he continues to hurt them and I have to pick up the pieces but I need to show that I am only mother to my 3 children and not to him as well. His own mother shys away from confrontation so she will never be any use to him when it comes to rebuilding the R with his kids b/c there will undoubtedly be lots of confrontation before an entente cordial is finally achieved (if ever)
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
