trying to be patient and strong

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To me, it was sudden and unexpected. For her, she says that she was having growing doubts for quite some time.

Some of it was XOM slowly showing his true colors, and W realizing that she didn't have to deal with any of those negative traits with me. She also saw the positive changes I was making in myself, and remembered the things we used to share and the things she missed about me. Me not initiating a lot of contact those last few weeks helped with the missing part.

The thing is, she resisted the urge to let me know about these feelings. She still can't explain to me why that was so. Some of it was pressure from XOM, but then why did he have such power over her? Don't know. I think it will be important for us to understand what I did to cause her to build such a strong wall between us, and what about her caused her to be so resistant to tearing it down.

Not sure if I am answering your question well, but we are working through a lot of this still.