trying to be patient and strong

[gForce]

My W had a disconnect. She would tell me that she was as much at fault for the breakup of our M as I was, but then wouldn't work to fix it for the longest time. She did do a bit of history rewriting, telling me that she hadn't loved me for the longest time, maybe not ever. But that was just her trying to convince herself. She still doesn't understand herself (or won't tell me) why she felt so committed to leaving, even when she knew that doing so was making her unhappy. So when the fog lifted it was a bit of a surprise to us both.