Wow. That does not sound like a pro-marriage, solution-based counselor. Unfortunately, I can't think of a way to pull the plug on that now without it looking totally controlling to him. So, I guess you need to trust him to come to his own conclusions based on his experiences with you, in that counselor's office, and with the coach. So, as stressful as it is, it's something you can't control. Here's a thought for today:
Make a list for all of us of things that you stress about right now, including the marriage and all of its' problems, worries etc. Then, make a list of the things in THAT list that are out of your control. Then, show us what is in your control. Worry about those things.
