My dear Treese, I find your story mind blowing I guess cos I was m 31 yrs and have 3 children and my H had an affair- I was destroyed and literally wanted my life to end. I spent several years in a black hole but now am back to normal but it was the hardest thing I ever had to do. Listening to your story I really don't know how you do it. I wanted the same things as you but life took a different route. It does get better, my life is happy now my one regret is that made x never tried to keep a rel. going with his children and only now has contacted them, sadly for him they really could care less. I really hope you do come to some arrangement as to the meeting but for the life of me can't see why your H would do this. (((()))))