Just wait until after the divorce, it gets worse. They almost completely forget that they wanted the divorce and then continue the blame game. It is a mind blower...
Yes, some have to go through this. It is a tough lesson and very difficult to watch but it does help them eventually sort through their emotions.
Trusting,
It gets worse? OMG....... I don't know how much more I can take......
My H thinks that now that the D will be finished soon (next month or so) that there is a "light at the end of the tunnel." He STILL thinks that he is unhappy because the D isn't finished, and that the magic happiness fairy will come wave her magic wand over him the moment the D is complete.
I know this isn't true, of course, but do they ever figure it out? He has done NOTHING to fix his issues and refuses to go to counseling, not even to help the kids with their struggles or for he and I to learn to co-parent. He is living with a 22 yr. old controlling, manipulative parasite (even though she shows her a nicey-nice sweet girl face to the world, she also had the rep. when she worked in his office of being a snotty, rude diva, so I can't help but wonder what she's like to live with), and is falling back into all his old habits. (Lots of online poker, video games, fantasy football leagues, procrastinating on everything, ordering out instead of cooking which was one of his big complaints with me---I was so lazy/unorganized/busy with kids activities that I didn't plan ahead to cook.)
Yes, I obviously still snoop (I know, I know, I KNOW it's not good for me, but I haven't broken the habit yet) and I hear lots of things through the grapevine and from my kids.
I just wonder how long it will take before he realizes that he is NOT any happier, and that his life hasn't really changed AT ALL, except that he doesn't see his kids and they are suffering for it.
TPaschal
Me:40, xH:41 M:19 T:21 D14, S10, D6 IDLYA bomb:12/22/06 OW bomb (21 yr. old employee):12/23/06 H move out 2/07, OW move in 5/07 D papers served 6/07 D final Nov. 26, 08 :-(