Where do I go from here? pt. 2

[tpaschal]

Dawn,

I knew even as I wrote it that there was a good chance I wouldn't send my letter, but I've done that several times---written down everything I need to get off my chest. I just don't usually send them to H anymore! (I think the last one I sent was this time last year.) I know it's not good DB'ing, but I guess right now I feel like it's too late for DB'ing anymore, anyway, so why not? But everyone here is right that he wouldn't "hear" it. It might even make him more distant or even more nasty to the kids. <sigh>

There's a chance that S9's letter may provoke an ugly reaction from H, as well, but S9 is insistent that he wants H to have it.

I am trying my best to facilitate a relationship between H and the kids while staying out of it as much as possible, but from the way H acts it is as if he is only seeing the kids out of obligation (and to show the courts that he is an involved dad), not because he really cares about them right now. And the kids feel it and are hurt by it.

Best wishes to you, as well. Kids or not, your advice is sound. Thanks for taking the time to read and give encouragement.

T