Here I am....real life and all.

[Starshyne]

My thread in infidelity just locked up. And so I am bravely moving over here. I want to cling to the group I have been a part of for awhile, but I know I don't belong there because I am now divorced.

Many of you know my story....here is the rundown again for those of you who don't.

Aug 2006- H is with a prositute and thinks he has AIDS (he didn't). Admits to it, we go to MC and our marriage seems to be really good.

Dec 2007- find strange message from a women on H's cell phone.

Jan 2008- H admits there is OW, he stays out all night, I cry and beg and plead and cry some more. Finally I read DB and come around here.

Feb-March 2008- OW breaks up with H and he comes back home. He is depressed but I think that things might be working out.

April 2008- H's old behaviors come back. It is obvious to me that he is with a woman. I just didn't think it was the same one.

May 19 2008- Worst day of my life. H says he wants to come home. OW comes to my door and basically forces H to say that he is in love with her and wants to leave me. However H refuses to leave our house. Cops are called and he will NOT leave.

June 5 2008- I give H one last chance to come home and I will nt file for D. I see his car at Ow's mom's house.

June 6, 2008- I file

July 1, 2008 - After much arguement, we reach a settlement and papers are signed.

July 2, 2008 - The judge signs off on the papers and we are divorced.

July 16, 2008 - H by court order has to be out of the house (remember he would not leave). H is gone but all of his possessions remain.

Aug 2, 2008 - Divorce is offically offical.

Aug 1-5, 2008 - xH calls me and tells me that he has broke it off with OW. He wants to be friends and we begin a friendship of talking on the phone.

Aug 6, 2008 - xH calls and says I can no longer contact him or be his friend because he is back together with OW. Why does this hurt me?

So there I am....not a happy person. I feel like I divorced so fast that my head is still spinning from it. I am doing a lot of things for myself but just feel empty.

Sara