CAKE-EATING

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For what its worth here is my story.

I just wanted to say my H and I are finally back together, and he says that he is more in love with me now than he ever has been. Why? He says because I showed him love when he didn't deserve it, I showed him unconditional love, something he could not understand, it blew him away.

Yes he did take advantage of my feelings in the first couple of months after finding out about his affair.

Yes people on this board and even his best friend told me not to let him do this to me. To me I had to do what was best for our family and if it meant I would show him only love then so be it. I did not try to change him.

We only seen each other during the weekends because of his job that is why the affair, she was convienent is how he put it, she made herself available, first it was physical then it became an emotional affair then he just wanted out of our marriage.

Those 2 months was pure agony for me, but during those months he came to realize what he was doing to his family and himself, he came to realize he had to come back home to find work here. After his move back home it still took 3 months to repair his damaged way of thinking. He had this lifestyle for the last 7 years, the affair lasted 5 months and he did fall in and out of love with her.

But here we are now and he is so attentive and loving, though their has been some rough patches, first of all, after finally feeling safe enough I had my emotional breakdown and basically let him have it, I told him I resented all the things he had did to me, and all the horrible words that he had said to me, and so now I am in the process of trying to forgive and letting go, it has been tough but my anger has finally subsided.

When I think of what I had to put up with, (the cake eating) Yes it was very difficult but it was worth it to keep my family from falling apart and he said he is so grateful that I fought for us and did not give up on him or us, but he did say if I had thrown him out on his a$$ he would have tried everything to get me back, but to tell you the truth I seen it in his eyes that he was so far gone from me that the only thing I had left was to do what I did, I couldn't take a chance.

Only you know your spouse better than anyone you have to decide for yourself what is best for you and your family.


Here's hoping the best for all of you!

BEAUTIFUL!!!!



May all the love between you just melt all those old hurts away.