during sex, look up and say, "by the way, this little extra is for helping me the other day."
Ken, so what you are saying is that men don't care if sex is a "reward".....just as long as they get it, right? (lol) So does that fall in anywhere with make-up sex, pity sex, ahhhhh, what else?......."just do it and get it over with sex"? (lol) Don't get mad, I'm just teasing ya. I really think I know what you are telling us. As long as it is okay with our H's then we should not worry about him thinking of it as a reward or not.....right? It would just be another way of showing our appreciation. Like when my H vacuums the carpet. (lol)
I think I need to close with this one......I have made some terrible bummers tonight. Think this is one of my "off" nights.
You all have a good one.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
hey, I vacuum and i dont get rewarded with sex, your H is lucky! and I do the laundry too.
I dont understand why sex should not be a reward.
Showing you love someone because they make you feel good is not bad.
Making someone feel good because they're showing you love is not bad.
You dont have to spell it out in lipstick on your backside, "THIS IS FOR CLEANING THE GUTTERS", but he will eventually notice a correlation between sex and doing things for you. and yes, like a dog, he'll start doing more to get more. its really just a variation of cheeseless tunnels, but different tunnels.
"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".
sandi, i love to talk sex!!! that johhansen lady on talk sex is my favorite....but i'm sure if i started talking....i would get kicked off the boards for sure!!!
so anyway...back to subject at hand!! me, getting my R with the H back in some type of an order....where to start...oh forrest....where's that plan of yours!!!
the best lipstick i've seen ....well, let's say it needed a single AAA battery!!! and well...use your imagination!!!!
hehehehehe
christa
H-32 Me-29 T-10years M-4yr (10/04) Me- WAW 1/07 I filed for D 2/07 D put on hold 5/07 H re-files for D 9/08 WOW! trying MC 10/08
"Work like you don't need the money, dance like nobody is watching, love like you've never been hurt!"
i know now what is inside all of your heads....and it is true the one thing men think about all the time!!!
they need a sex venting thread!!! ken you could go there and talk about lipstick!!
hehehehehehe!!! just kidding....i could go there and talk about batteries!!!
OMG....it's 4 am, i can't sleep!!! what's a girl to do!!!
let's get back to topic....ya know...christa, working on a R with her DAM!!! and he's not to the point where we can even give him a little sumpin sumpin for a reward...when that happens...ken baby...i'm coming to find you!!! we'll chat more about rewards then!!! LOL
hugs christa
H-32 Me-29 T-10years M-4yr (10/04) Me- WAW 1/07 I filed for D 2/07 D put on hold 5/07 H re-files for D 9/08 WOW! trying MC 10/08
"Work like you don't need the money, dance like nobody is watching, love like you've never been hurt!"
Well, what's going on these days, sweetie? Haven't heard a word out of Forrest. I went on his thread to try to figure out the puzzle, but I still don't know. Maybe he is in deep thought. He has a lot of people asking for help and like I told you before, he really thinks things our before he gives advice. I just start typing...lol.
So, how are you doing....and what have you been up to? I kind of got behind on things when I was having so much computer problems.
If it is just me and Ken......you can give us all the dirty little details of your exciting life and we won't tell a soul.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
