My H is 'using' my S15 to get more money out of me. Now that S15 is living with him he has stopped paying me maintenance for the girls. His rationale for this? He took a 50% pay cut (I'm pretty certain so he didn't have to pay maintenance) and of course 4-5 holidays a year do not come cheaply, especially when your partner who works appears to earn nothing! So he's feeling the pinch. I'm the thorn in his side so he thinks I should 'pay' for that. We now earn approximately the same so he thought he'd just take a maintenance holiday! The fact that he was already underpaying me by the same 50% for the last 2.5 yrs and he hasn't paid his half of the mortgage in the same time period seems to have slipped his memory.
The reaction he wants: D him as quick as I can.
The reaction he will get: I'm currently looking for a third job to ensure that my girls and I (and S15 if he ever sees the light) keep a roof over our heads.
Yes I am being a grown up, yes I am ultimately 'supporting' his recklessness (which I hate with a vengence) BUT I have my pride and my children to consider and right now that is more important.
So damned if we do, damned if we don't
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
