Well Bethie, there is so much pain involved it is hard to find the silver lining...but I am trying. My mom keeps telling me that things happen for a reason but I may not know that reason until a long time from now.
I have been reading about co-dependent relationships and I think that is what I had with xh. I enabled him (with money and also just taking care of him in general) and he depended on me and I liked it that way. Not sure why, I haven't had another R like that and I don't think I would seek something like that in the future.
I took a quiz and answered a big fat yes to all of the questions. I guess I need to try to look deeper into that so that I don't get into the same type of R the next time.
