It is subjective. What is cake-eating to one person is not to another.
Do we deserve respect? Hell yeah. Can I get an amen?
However, as an LBS with an MLC spouse, we accept that one person will not respect us. We should expect their worst behaviour, if they cannot respect themselves, they certainly cannot afford to respect us.
While I do not like the term, Puppy definition is the one I would use, if backed into a corner and had a gun pressed up against my head.
"Caking-Eating" usage seems to set up the following..."You deserve better, why are you with him?"
Do what works for you, even if it seems like allowing cake eating.
And by the way...
"Have your cake and eat it too." WTF? Really, of course I'm going to eat my cake, I HAVE...IT...RIGHT...HERE on my plate in my hand. Never made any sense to me. What I supposed to just look at it? Nice cake, I bet it tastes great, but alas, alack! I am supposed to only gander at the wonderous thing.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
