Hi OneEdge,

sounds like a rough position to be in.

also sounds like you have the right attitude, of "help her and the kids when you can".

From her reaction, to what you were saying to her
["stop telling me about depression"]... sounds like the best thing for you to do, as far as conversation goes... is to listen.
Just listen. Dont try to tell her anything. Just ask her, about how she feels, right now. and listen, and try to empathise, instead of fix?

plus... dont bug her all the time about talking to you, either \:\) find a balance between "showing interest in her", vs smothering her.

The balance is different for everyone. Hopefully, you know what is the best amount for more wife, more than anyone \:\)

good luck, and hang in there.

PS: I suggest updating your signature to show your ages.
it makes a huge difference, knowing you are both just barely 20 \:\)
A large chunk of what's going through her mind, is probably, "gee, I missed out on dating around, in high school and college!"


Last edited by Dom R; 08/06/08 07:59 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle