our WAS's sure like to push our buttons, don't they?
Do they ever!!! But I'm not sure it's always intentional. Sometimes they are subconsciously looking for validation that they did the right thing by trying to leave. Crazy moody WASs!
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
With W's little texting shenanigan, I'd finally had enough. No more mr. nice guy. Maybe that was the 180 she was looking for?
Nice talk last night, then she went to sleep. Text this morning:
"Thanks for being honest with me about your observations"
My response: "Hope they didn't come across too harsh. If you didn't completely amaze me, I wouldn't be working so hard on this. I heard everything you said as well."
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
Jon, I think you did a pretty good job. I know that if W was trying to push my buttons, it probably wouldn't take much and when I go off, it's verbal and explosive. Look at it this way, things have improved in the last few months. Now, you are showing the other side of GAL and DB which is that you are willing to set boundaries and defend them in a mature manner. I think we can sometimes forget that mature behavior doesn't mean we can't get angry. I think your text message was spot on.
W called briefly, to ask "is it yahoo.com or yahoo.net?" LOL. I answered her, and asked "that's it?" She said yes, I laughed and got off.
On a whim, I texted "your voice is nice". I appreciate when she calls instead of texts, and I remember early in our separation she'd say "I just want to hear your voice. At the time I was dark.
W called while I was in a meeting, then sent a text "What's with all the compliments? They are nice but completely surprising"
I called her back, and we had a nice little talk. She said she isn't accustomed to hearing these things from me. That hurt, and I apologized. I guess I didn't do that during our M, and I've felt weird about it during the separation, trying to let her initiate all contact. So this turned out to be a 180, and it worked!
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
Jon that sounds awesome!!! I am glad you are starting to see some positive signs!
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Oh to hear a compliment from my husband (not regarding sex), I'd pay for that!
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
