Sawks,
Have you tried complementing her when you see her? Spend a long time thinking about specific things that you admire. Especially the things that tick you off right now. (i.e. she's very strong, to not just ignore what your gambling and go on as if the M was OK).

My C gave me this advice, and I've seen dramatic results. She's probably feeling some guilt and wondering how things could ever work again.

Me: 30
W: 28
T 8, M 6
S: 7-27-2007
W filed (again) 3-2011
Served 8-2011
Responded, now dark
"I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK