Completely and utterly devastated--how to cope

[pisces9]

i have learned through my DB coach that therapy may happen too soon within a separation...it needs to happen much closer to the point of reconciliation when you have a much happier, more positive history together..otherwise all you will dicsuss is problems...i would be very cautious right now to reccomend this anymore. let him come to you. it may not be needed if you DB. im leanring that one!

also- you can go for you- that is always good- but be careful who you pick..i just let my therapist go- and now i just talk to a DB coach every few weeks...