Quote:
When I stopped reacting....so did he.

When I stopped talking and started listening he started talking.

When I stopped pursuing and distanced myself, he begen to pursue.

When I began to change the steps of the dance, he began to take the lead. [/quote]

When you first stopped...or began to let go of the rope, as they say...did he react negatively?

My H seems to withdraw when I stop pushing/pulling/expecting.

He seems to be just as angry...no reponse to anything...just disappears.

For me..
This time...I don't feel as impatient or that I am working on myself to change him. That feels really...free:)

Sophie

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Me-50
H-38
Married 15 years 8/7/08
D8
S10
S13
H affair 11/04-7/04 maybe longer
H moved out 4/06

7/30/08- present: Reconnecting w/kids,friendly
10/30/08 H signed D papers
11/10/08 D papers filed
11/13/08 D papers served at home