You know, I am not really struggling. When it seems I am, I really do have the answers in front of me all the time- I guess I just don't want to listen to the truth. I recognize that pretty quickly these days and move on.
Just like you probably will realize that you didn't need to ask about sending the letter from you--- in a few days you will realize that it wouldn't have been wise. It does help to get the feedback though.
After I posted to you I sat and thought about the fact that your kids are younger than mine, so of course it is harder to let them build their own relationship with their dad. I do think that you should talk to your son about addressing the letter himself. It would be easier than him handing it to his dad and being around for the reaction, that's for sure. But, I really do believe it should come from him. That way your H has to face the truth of it rather than get bogged down in thinking of your motivation for sending it.
Here's to a good Wed. for you, T! I have nothing to do for the first time in weeks. Well, I do have to clean. That is what I haven't been doing much of while I have been busy! I am actually looking forward to my son leaving for work (the others are gone for the day). I haven't been alone in sooooo long.
