In a power struggle, both people are screaming to be heard and validated, and neither is doing that for the other. The first step is not necessarily to validate one another but stop the invalidation of each other. Invalidation can feel like control. Stopping this in itself can be a big thing. All it takes to do that is stay out of the pit. Let him have his say. Let him vent. Let him do what he thinks he needs to do to make himself feel better (within proper boundaries of course).
You won't be taken over, lose your identity, be made into a slave, be subjugated or anything else you may fear, not if you put proper boundaries in place. So the next thing for your to think about is whether you have a firm understanding of boundaries, what yours are, and why are they what they are?
Beautiful isnt it?
I am going to work on this. Thought I would share as it may help someone else here. Thanks for being there for me Cinco. Your kindness is a gift I cherish.
