Where do I go from here? pt. 2

[tpaschal]

Pam,

Thanks for your reply. How are you? I've seen a couple of things you've written on other people's threads, and it sounded like you were still struggling with your xh? I'm sorry for that.

That's one of the many things I would love to hit H over the head with---he thinks that as soon as the D is finished, all his problems will be over and he will magically be happy. Sorry, a$$****, but your kids and financial responsibilities aren't going anywhere! And you haven't fixed your emotional and psychological issues, so you're still going to be miserable!! Getting rid of me isn't going to change that!!!

Ah, well. What can I do? Nothing, I know.

I will probably do as you advise. But if S9 doesn't want to hand it to H by himself (he wants H to have it, but still says he lacks courage), I will probably go ahead and snail mail it to H's office. (It might very well be intercepted if I send it via email or to H's apt.)

I wrote H one or two long letters last spring and summer, and every couple of months we seem to have very non-productive conversations about relationship stuff, but nothing since April. But I've written tons and tons of letters that I've kept just for me!!!

I did call my L this morning about paperwork and deadlines, and mentioned to the legal assistant some of the emotionally damaging things H has been saying to the kids lately. I don't know if it's too late to get court ordered counseling for H and the kids, but I'm going to try.

Thanks again for checking in on me, and thanks for the wise advice.

T