I remember how I felt...why Cake-Walking was brought to my attention.

H would come around on weekends...enjoy family time, play, eat and be merry....

Then...he'd leave.

I felt used.

He'd come here, seeminly get a 'family fix'...then leave me with 3 kids all week.

I got very resentful of H interacting as if he were an uncle, brohter or some friend of the family.

He was, and has not, been involved in parenting, school, discipline,....raising the kids.

I understood that to be Cake-Walking after months went by.

Does that make sense?

Sophie

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Me-50
H-38
Married 15 years 8/7/08
D8
S10
S13
H affair 11/04-7/04 maybe longer
H moved out 4/06

7/30/08- present: Reconnecting w/kids,friendly
10/30/08 H signed D papers
11/10/08 D papers filed
11/13/08 D papers served at home