Your list is a great one and something ALL of us should aspire to ALL the time, DB'ing in a crisis or not.
Think about it...
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It is about being the best friend to your best friend even if they don't reciprocate. Unconditional love.
It is about giving them what they need not what you think they need. Empathy to others.
It is about doing these things because you choose to, not because you need to and making it clear that you have a life and a backbone. Self respect and care.
It is about setting an example for your children, wife, friends and family. Personal integrity.
It is being the "rock" that your best friend needs even though you feel like a pile of pebbles. For better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health.
It is about taking the high road without being judgemental. Personal character.
Ultimately it might be having the courage to make the final R choice (D) when you reach your endurance limit. Being honest with yourself.
I think the point of this thread was exactly what you mentioned in your last paragraph.
If you are choosing to do something to send a message - TALK to the person and give them the message instead.
If you are choosing to do something to punish or seek revenge - THINK about what that says about YOU.
If you are choosing to do something only because it might save your marriage - BEWARE that the change is artificial and will not last.
Personal integrity, being who you are because that is who you are, and having compassion and empathy to the most important person in your life should trump all in the end.
If your plans do not stack up against who you think you are as a human being, chances are those plans are ill advised.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
