JUST USED LRT-WHAT DO I DO NOW???

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HOW LONG WERE YOU AND YOUR H SEPARATED??? 1 year and 3 months

DID YOU AND YOUR H HAVE CONTACT WHILE SEPARATED??? WAS THERE ANY SEX??? After about 2 or 3 months of no real contact we began contact again. After 6 or 7 months - yes to sex.

DID YOUR H HAVE OW??? Long story.

WHAT BROUGHT H HOME??? Long story

DID YOU TELL H YOU WOULD FILE FOR A D AND HAVE HIM SERVED??? no

It is difficult to give you answers to your questions Sandericka. Something that I could go into for hours I suppose. I'm sure my posts from 2 years ago are in the archives somewhere. It's hard to try and put it all down again.

What I did one day is say that I don't have that much of my life left to be losing myself like this again. This is my second husband. We raised a wonderful blended family. We've known each other 30 years - we've been married 19 1/2.

I've dealt with affairs in both my marriages on several occasions thruout the years.

I was simply done. I wanted to hold the hand of my Lord and let Him help me grow and become who I need to be. I did not focus my every thot or attention on my husband anymore. He lived his life and I began to live mine.

This is what began to bring him home. When I say lived my life without him that's exactly what I mean.........just moved on. Never thot he'd be back. My husband doesn't do that. When he moves on he moves on.

I let it go and became me. I do not regret him walking out on me at all. It was the best thing for me.

I also "knew" when to contact him about certain things. It's a sense......intuition if you will. You just know it's ok.

Never did I do anything with the thot of him coming home. I was convinced he wasn't going to do it anyway. Just moved on. I knew if he filed I'd be fine. If he didn't file I'd also be fine. That's what I needed to learn...that I was simply ok either way.

When you let it go you begin to live........truly live.

brue