So, did his first wife have the same initials too? Maybe he makes all of his life decisions based on not having to get new towels.
No she had totally differant . I believe now that the poor girl moved out of state because of the lies he told about her. he is a schmuck
BAM! nice initials Bethie!
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found out about affair 8/06 H moves out Nov/06 D final 8/07 X re marries OW 5/08 _________________________ Courage does not always roar, sometimes it is a quiet voice at the end of the day saying... " I will try again tomorrow". -- Mary Anne Radmacher
funny BH! could not sleep last night. the whole name thing got to me. then I started thinking back to when the whole affair could have started. when did I see signs but brushed them off? which then led to all the lies he told after I found out. My brain would not shut off about this stuff. Does it ever go away?
found out about affair 8/06 H moves out Nov/06 D final 8/07 X re marries OW 5/08 _________________________ Courage does not always roar, sometimes it is a quiet voice at the end of the day saying... " I will try again tomorrow". -- Mary Anne Radmacher
Of course I want to tell you that it doesn't matter, who cares, don't wast the brain space, but I know that it's not that easy. Although I do think as time goes on it does seem to be a much smaller part of our consciousness. Get over it completely though? I don't think we ever totally forget. Afterall, it was a very hurtful and traumatic experience which some liken to a form of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
As my GF the shrink said, "you'll get past it but you'll never totally get over it!"
I think it gets easier but never truly goes away. Really how can it? It's an experience we were given even though we didn't want to partake. The key thing is how we deal with it that makes the difference to our future happiness.
For it to just go away would mean it never mattered. We all know that it did. You loved and married this guy for real. It wasn't playing house or anything like that. It was a real, live marriage. So, it can't just go away. It's something that helps shape who you are, who you become, and how you deal with things. So, I think the thing to do is address the thoughts giving you trouble and move on as the better person you've become and will always be.
