my situation has just started (getting served the papers soon) and maybe I'm not primed for giving out advice, but here's my first real attempt....
let the SOB cry and apologize. do not falter. a lot of people on here would KILL to have the STBX crying and apologizing, having doubts about what s/he is doing. be resilient. you had a life before him, its waiting to show its face again if you let it.
2. Your relationship with your wife is over when YOU say it is over ----MarkF
