I do long distance once maybe twice a year and I always get homesick, but it makes a helluva difference to PMA and well being when you're not fighting with someone back home.
Kalni,
remember our discussion about not being able to celebrate our wedding anniversaries, well this year for me looks like it's going to get put back cos W says it's too close to FIL operation.But we are still going to celebrate eventually.
Just going back to What a difference 12 months makes, I was just looking back to what I was posting on another forum before I found the DB site.
Originally Posted By: Lanzo M 2-in-2-1 forum April 29th 2007
I am about to go on my two week business trip and my W suggested we have a family day where we and our daughter spend time together. We went to the shopping mall that is located on the water front, and we walked, we talked, we played with our D and in general we had a good time. When we were walking she slipped her hand into mine and smiled at me and said it's great to be able to do family things together.
Originally Posted By: Lanzo M 2-in-2-1 forum May 5th 2007
While I was away I made a call home basically asking her how she was and was she missing me. When she replied no, and that she could now actually sleep with out me disturbing her, I just flipped. I let rip verbally with a lot of things that I've kept pent up for a long while. I never said anything that was untrue, I just pointed out some of her bad points, her unfair and devious actions.
Shows I was on the roller coaster even before I knew it existed. Theres not much stress from home that I found it easy to focus in meetings on this trip,and I have managed to find time to post. I've even managed to get out and buy presents fot those that matter.
I'm feeling good at the moment I hope it will last.
Hey Sweetie! I have not forgotten about ya. Have had a lot of computer problems but hopefully now everything will be okay. So good to hear you will be fine health wise. I think your W likes for you to joke and play with her like that and you and she needs more laughter. You have had a hard year, but I think you two are going to make it. Just don't over-load yourself and get so in debt that it causes major problems in the M. There will be problems of some sort as long as we live and don't seem to be fairy tale marriages, however, yours has certainly improved. As long as we can stay healthy, happy and have peace.....it is all worthwhile. You take care over there. But something cute as a surprise for your W.
Talk to ya later.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Hey Sweetie! I have not forgotten about ya. Have had a lot of computer problems but hopefully now everything will be okay. So good to hear you will be fine health wise. I think your W likes for you to joke and play with her like that and you and she needs more laughter. You have had a hard year, but I think you two are going to make it. Just don't over-load yourself and get so in debt that it causes major problems in the M. There will be problems of some sort as long as we live and don't seem to be fairy tale marriages, however, yours has certainly improved. As long as we can stay healthy, happy and have peace.....it is all worthwhile. You take care over there. Buy something cute as a surprise for your W. Maybe even something that would make both of you laugh.
Talk to ya later.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Lan, I am on vacation. I am sitting on my veranda and today the sea in front of me is like "oil" as we say, very peaceful. Happy to see you continue to remember and compare now and then and take nothing for granted. I think that's what makes a difference in piecing ... Love K PS Please do something about your annivers even if she says no, even if it is small. It has to be different than other years. Maybe just buy her a new simple ring?
Still trying to get right up to date with where you at now (week off work puts me behind !!!), but can usually get a lot from your sig, but it's gone !!!
Want to post your signature type list of where you are ?
GL bud, I'm in total envy of you and trying to work on my own sitch as you have yours. I'm understanding the patience needed now, this will take a good year to have improved significanlty and then probably a further 2 to get to a great relationship. I doubt many are strong enough to stay the course, but I feel you are one of the few. GL Sir
When W and I used to fall out she used to say one of the biggest things she missed was me making her laugh, so making her laugh is key to making her happy. On the house front the amount of work required is more than we initially estimated so the cost are going to go up, but W has taken a second job cos she feels she needs to contribute more. Her words are, "We're in this together".
Hi K,
W and I will celebrate our anniversary this year, but because the date is so close to FIL operation date, she just wants to push back a little just in case anything happens with him.
Fb2/John, It's so easy for us to f'up cos W's will intentionally or unintentionally lay traps. Long story short over dinner with family, the topic turned to receiving flowers and if people appreciated them. W stated in the past that when I had made grand gestures with flowers, she always thinks what a waste, and the money could be better spent on shoes or other items she really likes Anyway I didn't let this upset me. But later she told the assembled guest that in the past she had sent a single Rose to my place of work as a Valentines gesture. This was news to me, and W got all upset because I hadn't remembered. When I asked her when this was, she said maybe last year or the year before. Well I know that's definitely not true, cos since D6 was born I've been off W emotional radar and we don't do valentines cos she thinks it's just a money making venture for the shops.
If she did send me a flower it would have to had been before we got married, cos since we got married, you name the year I can name the argument. Anyway right up until the end of the evening she was still upset cos I couldn't remember the flowers. It took a lot for me not to say you couldn't have sent anything in the last few years cos in that time you we emotionally involved with someone else. I think in re writing history she's got a few things mixed up, I mean could she have possibly sent the flowers to someone else.
Anyway if W is still upset we me now, long term we still going to be ok. Update she ok cos we just shared a joke on the phone about the flowers. In the past a simple thing like that would have meant us not talking for a few days.
Well, a date is just a "date".....it is the "celebration" that counts. My grandmother was so funny about "dates". If we could not celebrate her birthday on the very "date".....forget it! lol
About the flowers and how your wife feels. I think flowers are very romantic, but we have had such little money to spend on things like that, that I tend to think of it as a waste also....even though I love them. I secretly think of a new blouse or something I could have that would have not wilted in a few days. To defend the men however, I think flowers is sort of an escape route for them b/c they don't have a clue as to how to buy clothes or other things for their W's (as a rule) so flowers are good.
About the argument over the rose she sent to you at work. You know there is always a possiblity that the florest messed up and didn't deliver the rose to the right place and just never told your wife. If she never questioned you, then she didn't realize they didn't get it to you and has been mad all this time....lol. Just a thought. The crazy things we can get upset over. But, women are like elephants.....they never forget! Just ask my H if you don't believe me....lol.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
