You're right about goal 5 of course. Maybe I am seeing this Boulder session as so much of a panacea that I feel some pressure around it won't hurt anything. I just know the dates we need will get booked soon if I don't book them first!
OK, so I will focus on seeing progress in either goal 1 or goal 2 first. If it is clear that H is at all optimistic about the future, then I could build on that optimism by suggesting another logical step--an intensive counseling session. I guess also if he says that he is finding counseling useful, in general, that I can then somehow work it into conversation. OK this is going to kill me, but no mention of it for at least 2 weeks unless it becomes obvious that it's the right thing to do...
Thanks so much for pointing this out!
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
