Mulesqb - Still alive and Kickin'

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Mules, IMO, I don't think you screwed up at all. S7 is too small to be using a BB gun unsupervised. Period. If she has experience w/ guns, then she knows to have the kids go through hunter safety training, to have them shoot at tin cans, never people, etc. You did not blow it, you were expressing your opinion about a dangerous situation.
Good job with the BS meter, and deflecting her attempt to shift the focus to your R with kids. Great job, actually.
"She is very emotional right now." Very confused,too. She's off the deep end, man. Would the "old" W have allowed the BB gun unsupervised?
I don't want to focus on the BB gun though. I see a pattern around negotiating when you are miles apart. Lake George, you take a step closer. Parent's party, she takes a step closer. Someone will have to take the first step with the ML issue. Honestly, I'm surprised she was able to offer going to the anniversary party. (By the way, she's mad that no one's taking her side. I did the same thing.)
A suggestion...ask her, "What can I do that will make the anniversary party more bearable for you?" She may respond with an answer that you cannot validate. If you hear anything (ANYTHING) you can support, then take a step closer. Maybe she'll do the same about Lake George, maybe not. Peace. my current thread: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#Post1544115