I forgot to mention the most important thing H said yesterday.
He said that know matter what I have been trying to do to "fix" the R or make things better between us...it couldn't happen...he realizes that he was not in a place to accept it or let me "in". He had decided in his mind that he was right and there was absolutely no way in his mind...that we could make things better.
I don't think he's in a place to let us work on us completely....but I do think it is a baby step that he is thinking about these things and coming to some conclusions about where things went wrong..and where they are now....and maybe where they could end up. ???
BA
BA,
Thanks for sharing this with us. I think it lets us see into the mind of a MLCer. It confirms what many books tell us, that they can't be pushed, that they have to figure things out on their own terms.
I've often wondered if "tough love" was the right thing to do with a MLCer. I've never thought it would work with my H. It just tends to push him away. It seems being their friend might be the way...
Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
