May I add. I think after reading PM you will see what you are missing. Or rather where your strengths and weaknesses are.
My H would have never gone to a sex therapist. Everything is after all my fault.
For instance you will read this in Pm some where.....
My H always wants for me to come first. I spoke of this before. I want to enjoy the journey if I come great and if I dont great too. For me he kills it when he is pushing for me to come. he says he does it b/c he is thinking of me and the book says when he does it. This is actually selfish. Cant rememeber why but I always felt this way too. Like hurry up and come lady so we can get on with this! oops hubby is home