I'd go with the naked thing. Did you ever walk around naked, or would it be too obvious. The weather's HOT, it's HOT in here, etc...
NO expectations about the email...keep that in mind.
nope it'd be too obvious, never did it before except in and out of the shower, in our room and maybe after bom-chicka-bom lol..
Yes I know, no expectations.. (as hard as that is)
just spoke to my mom and dad back home, and they hold out so much hope that this is just a phase.. I had no answers for them.. but they know I am taking care of myself.
you just made me laugh- bom-chika- bom! just wanted to say hi.... no R talk...brings up all their SH*T and you dont know where her head is right now...could be good could be bad- personally- not worth the risk.
also- shows her you "dont care" and can handle life without knowing...
i know it sucks. i have had to ask SOOOO many times here why i cant just say COME HOME! but any act of desperation or neediness is clearly not attractive.
she will open up to you if you give her the pace and time...she is already warming up to you with telling you her plans, etc.
Pisces M 31 H 32 M 7 yrs S 5/10 Beginning Contact! Vibes Hot Tub Cheese
you just made me laugh- bom-chika- bom! just wanted to say hi.... no R talk...brings up all their SH*T and you dont know where her head is right now...could be good could be bad- personally- not worth the risk.
also- shows her you "dont care" and can handle life without knowing...
i know it sucks. i have had to ask SOOOO many times here why i cant just say COME HOME! but any act of desperation or neediness is clearly not attractive.
she will open up to you if you give her the pace and time...she is already warming up to you with telling you her plans, etc.
hi pisces (w is a pisces) ..
i try to make everyone laugh :P
i am not so sure it's warming up.. she's been doing it the whole time, but i do it too.. i guess i should quit that.. but it's one of the few things i still do..
nearly 3 months and i still can't believe all of this has happened..
Well, sawks, 5 days post in-person delivery of my letter and still NOTHING. H can still act like everything is O.K. Pretends for the kids that the only thing different is our addresses. I don't know what I expect, but I told him I know about OW, and that I know that THIS isn't just about us, and nothing changes.....................he is so screwed up!
His mother thinks he hates her. He's an only child. Should I tell him about the conversation with his mother? I guess this will be my question of the week. Off to post it to my thread..........
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
Well, sawks, 5 days post in-person delivery of my letter and still NOTHING. H can still act like everything is O.K. Pretends for the kids that the only thing different is our addresses. I don't know what I expect, but I told him I know about OW, and that I know that THIS isn't just about us, and nothing changes.....................he is so screwed up!
His mother thinks he hates her. He's an only child. Should I tell him about the conversation with his mother? I guess this will be my question of the week. Off to post it to my thread..........
Well Tuesday morning back from a long weekend.. W has contacted me twice this morning, and because i had C today, I was still home when she woke up, i wished her a good day.. she emailed me to ask what days i will be late this week (even though i told her it's next week I will be late, who's not listening now?) .. and subsequently she called me for something to do with her laptop..
Anyways it's been a week and i really am not sure if she will ever reply.. but no expectations means exactly that..
W also acts as if nothing is wrong.. as i get closer and closer to deciding if I have finally had it or not.. being in same house paying off debt is a good thing, but she is getting to do the same .. so she is buying time to set herself up for the future as well.. until everything would get split, then she would realize more..
I personally wouldn't tell him.. i am a rookie so some veteran would better answer that.. it's your convo, not his.. not really his business right now
OK. So walking around naked isn't going to work. What about...your just about to get in the shower, water running, clothes off, and you remember that you need something....a bottle of water! So, you make a quick jaunt into the kitchen (nakey) and grab a water bottle from the fridge to take into your shower, because your thirsty, because you just got back from the gym! I'm a genius! Once you see wife, act startled, even though you knew she was there, DON'T COVER your goods, and start a little conversation with her, "Oh. I didn't know you were home. I'm just getting something to drink in the shower. By the way, did you notice if the grass on the front lawn looks a little wilted? Maybe it's just me. And, what time was that movie supposed to come on this evening? So and so called, they told me to tell you hi." Whatever, just talk like you don't care that you're completely naked.
Yes?
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
OK. So walking around naked isn't going to work. What about...your just about to get in the shower, water running, clothes off, and you remember that you need something....a bottle of water! So, you make a quick jaunt into the kitchen (nakey) and grab a water bottle from the fridge to take into your shower, because your thirsty, because you just got back from the gym! I'm a genius! Once you see wife, act startled, even though you knew she was there, DON'T COVER your goods, and start a little conversation with her, "Oh. I didn't know you were home. I'm just getting something to drink in the shower. By the way, did you notice if the grass on the front lawn looks a little wilted? Maybe it's just me. And, what time was that movie supposed to come on this evening? So and so called, they told me to tell you hi." Whatever, just talk like you don't care that you're completely naked.
Yes?
Yes that could work LMAO.. you made me laugh there... i allready started to leave the door open when i take a shower, not always but sometimes..
Well W has asked me if we can drop the price of the house, I assume she is in a hurry to move.. I got a big raise today at work.. anyways the eventuality of everything is coming into play. If anything DB/DR will have made ME a better person in the end..
It's not the end until YOU say so. It's about HER and her PROCESS. She has to go through with at least part of this S/D before she can TRULY step back and see if this is what she really wants.
Just take it one day at a time.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
It's not the end until YOU say so. It's about HER and her PROCESS. She has to go through with at least part of this S/D before she can TRULY step back and see if this is what she really wants.
Just take it one day at a time.
You are likely correct.. and yes i haven't said so quite yet.. going to my C was good for me today..patienbce patience... she sent me 4 texts today... wtf?
