I forgot to mention the most important thing H said yesterday.

He said that know matter what I have been trying to do to "fix" the R or make things better between us...it couldn't happen...he realizes that he was not in a place to accept it or let me "in". He had decided in his mind that he was right and there was absolutely no way in his mind...that we could make things better.

I don't think he's in a place to let us work on us completely....but I do think it is a baby step that he is thinking about these things and coming to some conclusions about where things went wrong..and where they are now....and maybe where they could end up. ???

BA

Me:43
H:48
M:24 yrs T: 26 yrs
2 kids
ILYNILWYA 8-07 - MOW 9-07
H moved out 8-2-08 Back 8-18-08
Affair continues
Back home but not emotionally