I can't add much more to what has already been given you in sound advice.
All I see is a pathetic person swirling around the toilet bowl in his last throes before going under. He has no remorse for what he's done. No contrition, no repentance. No desire to get himself out of his own mess. Only self-pity. He's not only a typical alcoholic, he's a mean, spiteful one as well.
I have to pity him, but I do not think you need to waste any more of your time pitying him yourself -- you need to focus on your DD and her welfare now. Hire the L and keep moving on, Jr.
