Butterflymom, I totally agree with you. I just don't feel that suggesting these things to people who basically do not have the marriage you speak of is a good thing.
It is also a private and personal thing.
I am certain God would not advocate the use of Viagra either but that is again a personal opinion.God also gave us sex for procreation and with that comes other responsibilities. I can also think of many biblical quotes concerning virtuous woman and their speech.
A marriage also consists of two people and who is society made up of if not people.So who starts the corruption and who does the oggling, who is to blame those who dress in a revealing and flirtatious manner or those who oggle? This could go on and on.
Suffice to say I take your point but still maintain those who preach the word should also be moderate in their speech. Suggesting hiding items of underwear in a car in the hope or knowledge that your husbands OW may find it is far from a private thing within the confines of a loving marriage and it degrades the very thing you maintain to be God given. It is used as a trick/trap. As is the use of viagra given to a man who has no desire for sex with his wife.Should we suggest giving the date rape drug to low sex wives so men can have pleasure?
I am not a prude nor a religious zealot. I believe in moderation in all things and consider myself to be fairly open minded. I think I have said all I wish to on this matter and apologise to Patti for using her thread in which to say it.