Honey, you do not deserve any of this. Please take care of yourself and get well. You have so much on your plate. While you are at the doctor ask him about some vitamins. You are having to play the role of "superwoman" right now with your H being gone, even she gets worn down.
I agree with everyone else. Get yourself well and then sit down and have a talk with your H. He needs to realize he can't take everything out on you.
Hugs, Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
My opinion is that you need to tell your H what you think about his meanness to you and the kids, but I don't think he will sit for the conversation. So I recommend another letter. i know he doesn't answer them, but he internalizes them, and that is something. At least the last one didn't start an argument.
If you write the letter, do not accuse him of things. But you can be specific about what he does that hurts you. You can quote his words, but don't make assumptions about why he says them. And of course, I'd be happy to review it before you send it.
(((Tal))) take care of yourself, its even harder to do this stuff when you don't feel good and are run down.
I would write H a letter, sometimes its eaiser to put it on paper...no interruptions.
(((hugs)))
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Oh girl nothing is worse than being sick when your boys are sick. Awful. And I always get so upset when I can sleep (when the girls are sleeping) but yet I am *too* sick to actually sleep.
Get better, get rested, then tackle things. Slowly. I don't doubt you are physically worn down and your immune system is weaker. (((tal)))
Haven't done too much of anything, trying to get some work done, but no motivation to do it.
H will be leaving next Friday for out west again, for 2 weeks. he's been quiet, I did tell him that I know he is stressed but he has to stop taking it out on everybody else. He says I don't mean to . I said well we just have to get passed this bad spot we're in right now and go forward.
I still plan on writing the letter. Right now im not in the right frame of mind to do it, probably this wkend when I feel better.
Thanks guys
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
That's good, Tal. I'm glad for you that you did say something and are going to write a letter. I hope it gets him to start thinking and be more conscious of his behavior.
Oh, I'm home sick today too. Nothing like what you've been having to contend with, but I just didn't get any sleep.
SInus cold -- and on top of that I'm on call this week and my pager seemed to go off all night long. Ugh. But at least I didn't have the worry about one of my kids being sick too. I hate it when they're sick. I know that can be the hardest thing to deal with -- you feel so helpless sometimes to be able to help them.
(((tal)))