Nearly finishing up the PDF. It is over 200 pages (so, sg, you can see that I didn't put the whole thing and that the quotes are brief). Pretty soon, I can wrap this up.
Some painful thoughts and comments from the PDF:
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...having extramarital sex doesn't mean that you don't love your spouse. Pretending that it does is just another lie intended to keep married couples from cheating.
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...if you split up, your family won't be lost. Your children will always be your children. Don't minimize your role in their lives and don't allow anyone else to either.....you can choose to believe that what is happening to you is a tragedy, or, you can see it for what it is--an opportunity to grow and experience something much grander. And that's not just some happy horse$hiL I'm feeding you in order to make you feel better. It's the truth.
She then goes on to say that if you ask someone who's been cheated on, in retrospect if they are glad that they've been cheated on and left for another man/woman, most will respond, "it's the best thing that ever happened to me".[/quote]
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The worst thing that you are dealing with is the fact/possibility that your W's vagina has come into contact with another man's penis
She basically goes on to say that the person who committed the infidelity has tremendous guilt and that they withdraw from us..and we are a constant reminder of that guilt. The woman feels that she no longer deserves your love. Being with us makes them feel terrible about themselves. Women are instructed in our society that cheating is an unforgiveable offense. They give their infidelity tremendous meaning...otherwise they would have to consider themselves 'bad'.
Fascinating comments about guilt...again...differentiating about whether our W's have the affair with a single guy or married guy. Less quilt with the latter, more with the former. Much of the guilt, she goes on to say, is because they would choose the SINGLE AFFAIR PARTNER over us....that much of the guilt in doing this is that they must come face to face with their apparent lack of commitment.
Irony....some women are committed to obtaining their men...committed to their families..but there is an upspoken tendency of being NONCOMMITTED to their men.
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Men who marry women who used giving-without receiving as a means to get the men to commit can expect to be cheated on or divorced by those women
The similarities are frightening. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
