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Free sample from a doctor or someone who uses them???? I think this might be a great experiment. She could wear her Victoria's Secret apparel as she serves him breakfast and then...........


He might surprise himself as well.


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H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
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(((((Patti))))

Will be at OOB next week 11-18
Call me if you can get away.


There can be no testimony without a test.
I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
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Whilst I can see the humour in this--I often see advice being given for women to use their bodies as a way of getting their h to come back. I find it disturbing. Does it actually solve anything and does it actually help with self esteem problems.
I know God helps those who help themselves but I find advice like this very much at odds with the professed belief that God alone will bring the wayward spouse home.
Does God actually want you to use such wanton jezabel tatics?
I don't think you can have it both ways.

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I REALLY BELIEVE HE HAS NO INTREST WHAT SO EVER.....HE SAYS HES AFRAID.....I DONT BUY THAT. HE HAD NO PROBLEM LAST FALL SEEING HER ON THE SIDE, IT STILL RESONATES WHAT I READ LAST FALL....


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H 51
OW 25
Bomb may 06
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7/21/07 H comes home
7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW
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Originally Posted By: naej
Whilst I can see the humour in this--I often see advice being given for women to use their bodies as a way of getting their h to come back. I find it disturbing. Does it actually solve anything and does it actually help with self esteem problems.
I know God helps those who help themselves but I find advice like this very much at odds with the professed belief that God alone will bring the wayward spouse home.
Does God actually want you to use such wanton jezabel tatics?
I don't think you can have it both ways.



naej:

you are taking this the wrong way. sometimes you have to inject some humor because everything is always so serious and intense. people need to laugh once in awhile.

it is not pleasant what patti is going thru.


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H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
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Quote:
it is not pleasant what patti is going thru.

Steelers on this I wholeheartedly agree.
My point still stands.

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Sometimes we need to lighten up because there is too much tension.

Honestly, I don't know of anyone who would use "wanton jezebel tactics" as you have described it.

I am sorry if you took offense at this.


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"This man needs to be moved off of top dead center."

YES. This I agree with wholeheartedly. I don't want to sound as if lack of intimacy does not matter...of course it does.

but the fact is that he is home and at least SAYING ILY. I'm not sure what to think but this might be one for the DB Cs.


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breton:

I do agree with you.


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Steelers,

Beyond the wanton Jezebel tactics it is bad form to suggest, even as a joke, that someone obtain and administer a drug to another person in order to get a desired result. It's against the law to say nothing of the incredible health risks involved. Please be careful about the jokes. You just never know who might not see it as a joke and take the advice as gold and set the stage for a tragic ending.

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