That is the answer I was hoping you would give. I agree with everything you said, especially that if she doesn't want it to be there, you can't force it. I think this is the toughest reality we all must deal with.
CB
Me; 42, W; 43 M; 16 yrs S12, D9
3/13 - "I want to move to XYZ City (four hours away) and it might be without you, not sure" 5/13 - "Not sure I meant that"