I will not take H back any time soon. He has to deal with his issues. I have long believed that he was a sex addict and I think that needs to be faced. The fact that he was molested as a child and never got counseling and it obviously is still something that is haunting him needs to be worked out. I believe all of those things lead to him cheating on me in one way or another.
Sara
Sara, so glad your H (guess i should say ex-H) is finally waking up (it looks like)! NoCode, on his thread the other day was mentioning that his W had a difficult childhood and my H did as well-seems to be pretty common for the WAS. Yeah, more and more I realize it's not about the LBS, it's about the WAS and they are messed-up and at least a little crazy I think seriously.
I think that is great he is realizing some of that, but just like if an alcoholic realizes he's an addict you can't just say Great and forgive them and start trusting them right away. He really needs to work on his problems, I think you are right about them, if you don't deal with them then it comes out in those kind of ways. Is he going to do IC for a while? If he does that for a while and really works on himself then you can always decide later if you want to give him a chance or not. But I agree with lodo and Rob and others, he has to work for you and regain your trust and everything. I think you should keep on living your life, spending time with cutie, and enjoying yourself and worry about that down the road if you want to then. Karen
