I have both PM book and cd (my wife doesn't like to read books and agreed to listen on CD). I thought it was ok, but for both of us it was a bit "granola" and abstract. I'm not saying it will be for you as well, I'm just relating what my wife and I both thought of it. If I could figure out a way to contact you, I would be happy to give you both if you would cover the shipping, then you could judge for yourself.
I personally preferred Scott Haltzmann's books, Secrets of a Happily Married Man and Secrets of a Happily Married Woman (which I bought for my wife and she read 10 pages of, par for the course). I thought those had more advice that spoke to my day to day, but everyone is different in what works.
One question. Part of my challenge with my wife's ML and general approach to romance is that it doesn't measure up to my last serious girlfriend prior to her. Obviously there were other issues that led to things not working out (including meeting my now wife while things were already in trouble), but our sex life was off the charts and not one of the problems. This mental comparison still pops up for me and it is something that I have to deal with, and that is after 15 years of not seeing her. My question for you is, and I'm not sure how to ask this gently, is whether that is the case from your affairs? Is part of your struggle that you compare your wife sexually to any of the women you had affairs with? If so, is the thought in the back of your mind that if your wife doesn't measure up to them, that you know there are "other options" for you still out there?
CB
Me; 42, W; 43 M; 16 yrs S12, D9
3/13 - "I want to move to XYZ City (four hours away) and it might be without you, not sure" 5/13 - "Not sure I meant that"
