Intimacy Amongst Imperfection

[Concerned_Listener]

Piecing Friends,
My marital stock has been like the price of oil this past week--up and down daily.

I was up after the private dance lesson. I was down when I threatened to leave the dance due to intimidation. I was up when I stayed for the dance. I was up when we went dancing the following night. I was down on Monday due to dissatisfaction by our cooking customer (my W's sister and BIL).

I've been doing about 80% of the cooking lately (shopping, cooking, pureeing, smoothies, and drop-off). This is a PT job that my W accepted about a year ago. I've been her assistant with increasing responsibility these past several months.

My W and I partnered on the rice pilaf, which didn't turn-out well this time. She warned her sister, but we sent it on anyway (mistake).

I had a lapse with the quality of my smoothies. I might have been in a hurry, as we wanted to attend a dance venue that evening, and it was already 7PM.

My W was on the phone with her sister throughout the day. I've received about five angry emails from my W. She is disappointed in me. Her sister wants her to be more involved in the cooking, and to keep an eye on me. She doesn't trust the quallity of the other food now.

I sent an email and apologized for the smoothie lapse. There were some pieces of fruit left in the drink. I have to take the consequences for that lapse.

My W is upset because she had to field the complaints, and her sister can go on and on. She also is upset, because she now (per her sister's instructions) has to be more involved doing the part of the job she dislikes.

I will take my lumps, accept my piece (smoothies), and try to learn from the feedback that's being provided.

I will also need to problem-solve, as I think partly what happened is we recently have been wanting to attend the Sunday night dance venue, and this has created a deadline.

I slept in the guest room, last night. My W said not to talk to her, as she was very angry, and had been crying all day.

CL