Jeff and Kat, I hate to admit it, but I think I put the kids first always, then H, and I guess I was 3rd. I know better now: H first, then me and the kids (maybe tied for 2nd?). My H was gone all the time and I thought he was happy and I was busy with the kids, and we didn't spend enough time together or go out on dates. I always thought we'd do that later, and now there is no later of course. And yeah, Kat we need to focus more on ourselves; I'm definitely doing that now with TKD and friends and stuff, but like today I just got my hair cut--it's been about 6 months and I shouldn't do that-I get the kids haircuts every month or 2, but don't do that for myself!!! Karen
