Your H takes your son places because he feels safest around him. It is also because he knows your son will most likely not ask him a thing about what he is doing or has done whereas your daughter will.
They cling to those who provide that safety net. I know because my son was H's safety net and security blanket for a long time.
Whenever H would come over it was always, where is S17? Also, a few years back just after the A was discovered and H was in his anger phase, H would talk to OW in front of the girls and they would tell him how wrong it was and tell him that adultery was wrong and he hated to hear it. He never pulled this stuff in front of S17 at all.
S17 is no longer that security blanket.
When H comes over, he is with me now.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
