Go back and read DR and DB. But THIS time, read the parts about the Walk Away Spouse. Read about the REASONS why spouses eventually decide that nothing is going to change and choose to move forward.
How long do you think you will be content to live this way?
Are you ok with avoiding the issues and eventually reaching the point where it is YOU Michelle is describing in those paragraphs?
Not every walk away is an evil, hateful, no feelings type of person. Sometimes they are just people who have endured all they can endure, done their best to communicate their need to no avail, and concluded that leaving is all that's left.
Sometimes separation is the only thing that makes us open our eyes to our problems.
My ex insisted during the early months of our separation that she had TRIED to get me to address some of the issues between us, but that I would not do it. I still insist that this was not the case. The thing is that despite how I feel about it, that was HER perception of things.
This man needs to be moved off of top dead center.
Allowing the status quo to remain means that you will continue to live a life that hurts you every day.
Hurt leads to resentment.
Resentment leads to...well, I think you get my drift.
Facing the fear associated with confrontation sometimes needs to be done if we want to avoid an even worse outcome later.
Remember the old Fram oil filter commercial? You can pay me now, or you can pay me later.
Now was supposed to be better.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
