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[The Wifey]

(((Everyone)))

I had a good night. I was listening to the Keeping Love Alive cd's on the way home and the one thing that jumped out at me was "doing nothing." It really seemed to be the right thing for me right now.

So I made it home before the h. Then I sat out with the dog a while. He asked if I wanted a soft taco heated up and I said I didn't really have time to eat before C. He gave me a hug and kiss before I left. I didn't say a word about earlier in the day. He just looked relieved.

C was a really good session. She'd read Divorce Busting and she knew it. She knew it enough to talk sense into me. It was as if Michelle were sitting in front of me.

You'll all be happy to know that she gave me some verbal 2x4's. She said that she sees lots of positives and I am just getting greedy.

When I told her I was tired of the sing-song "ILY, I'll always LY, we're connected, you'll always be in my life, it will just be different." She answered back that he only says that when I act needy and upset.

Then I talked about needing to get out of the house and do more and she pointed out that this might be "more of the same." I'd never considered this more of the same, but she is right. I was always going and doing things and leaving the h at home. So, I need to work more on my goal of being happy and comfortable in my own home.

We talked about Ginny and how it was a real positive that he didn't answer her question. She thought it was good that I thanked him for putting her off and not answering her calls even though they are friends. That I appreciated him considering my feelings.

When I went home I had some cheese, crackers and a glass of wine. I gave him space and sat at the table while he was in the living room. We turned the tv so I could see it from the kitchen. He had a good laugh, and I did, too watching Two and a Half Men.

After I finished my snack I went up and gave him a kiss. He kissed me back and asked how C went. I said it was good, really good. He said he was glad to see me in a better mood. More kisses. Honestly it was just relaxing and hanging together.

I gave him a kiss before he went to bed and stayed out watching a tv program. Then I went to bed and read a little more of DR.

I went to sleep and slept through until 4. When I woke up I just laid there in the dark and thought about the positives that my C and I talked about. Last night after C when he kissed me, he seemed really relaxed and happy. That is what I want to have more of. Just happy times.

Sorry Neil, the ice cream place has gone out of business so I ended up not getting a milkshake. I'll get one at another place tonight. It will be vanilla for me.

I really think all of us that go to c should make sure the C reads DB or DR or both. What a difference to work on goals with the C. I was having a hard time myself.