Iamlost hit it right on the button. It is mostly about giving our WAS's the space they need to figure things out. You have done a truly beautiful job of this. The other part is truly listening and making changes in your life.
All your friends pressuring you to file are not taking your desires into consideration. They are not bad people they just want to see your suffering be as short as possible. Julia used to get a lot of pressure like this, I told her to just tell them "I am choosing to stand for my M, it may not be the easy road but it is what I am choosing, I would appreciate it if you would support me". They are also not in your sitch and possibly may never have been. Look at your friend...he filed....does he seem happy? Of course we all have our limits, you have to decide what yours are.
As far as the massage thing goes, try it. I have had a handful of them through the years. The first felt wierd and it was a female. I can't imagine a male doing it....probably becuase I give my W massages quite a bit and it usually leads to other activites and the thought of a man rubbing me just doesn't sit right.
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
